One of the most common questions people ask during a tarot card reading or spiritual consultation is, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?” Many people believe they are unlucky in love. Some think they have bad karma. Others feel that every relationship starts well but eventually turns into disappointment.
Personally, I look at this situation differently.
I do not believe most people keep attracting the wrong person. In many cases, they are attracting the right lessons, but they are approaching those lessons with damaged energy, emotional imbalance, or weakened chakras. As a tarot card reader and spiritual healer, I have observed that relationship problems often begin long before two people meet each other.
The first place I usually look is the energy field and the chakra system.
For example, the Solar Plexus Chakra is connected with confidence, personal power, self-worth, and decision-making. When this chakra becomes weak, a person may start doubting themselves constantly. They may become overly dependent on their partner’s approval. Instead of standing confidently in a relationship, they begin seeking reassurance every day.
No healthy relationship can thrive when one person completely loses their own identity.
The Sacral Chakra and Root Chakra also play an important role. When these chakras are weak, people often lose their natural joy, stability, and emotional grounding. They stop enjoying life. Their entire focus shifts towards one person, one relationship, or one outcome. When that happens, the relationship starts carrying too much pressure.
Another chakra that I pay close attention to during spiritual healing sessions is the Throat Chakra. This chakra governs communication. When it becomes blocked or weakened, people often struggle to express themselves clearly. They may say one thing but mean another. They may become misunderstood, or they may misunderstand their partner’s intentions.
This creates confusion where clarity should exist.
From an energy healing perspective, I often see situations where both individuals have energetic imbalances. One person’s wounds trigger the other person’s wounds. One person’s fears activate the other person’s insecurities. As a result, both people start reacting from pain instead of responding from wisdom.
This is why I often say that many relationship problems are not only relationship problems. They are energy problems.
The Third Eye Chakra and Crown Chakra also deserve attention. These chakras influence awareness, intuition, perception, and higher understanding. When these energy centers become weak, people sometimes lose perspective. They start overthinking every small situation. They become emotionally reactive. They seek constant validation.
For example, someone may repeatedly call, text, question, or doubt their partner. Not because they are a bad person, but because they are operating from fear.
Fear rarely creates attraction.
Confidence does.
When someone is emotionally balanced, they naturally give space, communicate better, and maintain their own life, goals, and identity. They do not need to chase attention because they are secure within themselves.
Many people unknowingly create emotional dependency in relationships. At first, this may feel like love. Over time, however, it can become exhausting for both partners. The relationship begins carrying a burden that neither person knows how to manage.
This is where spiritual healing, Reiki healing, energy healing, and self-awareness become important. The purpose of healing is not simply to attract a new relationship. The purpose is to become energetically stronger, emotionally healthier, and spiritually aligned.
Once your energy changes, your choices often change as well.
You begin noticing red flags earlier. You communicate more clearly. You stop accepting situations that do not align with your values. Most importantly, you stop seeking completion through another person.
From my experience as a tarot card reader and spiritual healer, lasting relationships are not created by chasing love. They are created when two emotionally balanced individuals meet each other from a place of confidence, respect, and inner stability.
So if you feel that you keep attracting the wrong people, I would encourage you to ask a different question.
Instead of asking, “Why do I attract the wrong person?”
Ask yourself:
“Is my energy helping me create the relationship I truly deserve?”
